I'm 20 Year old man who lives in the USA. I wanna post this here because idk where else to post it. As of right now I'm really struggling. Why? may u ask. Its really about 2 stuff. Family and Girlfriend. Recently my girlfriend passed away from a car accident. Its been really hard for me to process this because I have had known her for over 2 years. Its very hard to lose someone u love. Its killing me knowing that she's dead and I can't spend rest of my life with her. The other reason is family due to lack of contact. My parents really haven't texted me in ages or at all. Growing up they were not proud of my achievements and really treated me like someone worthless. As of now I'm in depression due to the passing of my girlfriend. I really would like some support or anything wised said because I really loved her.
About your family, unfortunately, not every person is designed to be a parent. But right now, you need to focus only on yourself.
You are the one who matters the most, you can't do anything else for your girlfriend besides mourn. She wants you to move on and live an happy life.
I never have experienced that, however, I had my up and downs as well. Sculpt yourself into the person you wanna be, because right now, you just have to live your life, and that's ok. You will meet friends and maybe a new love. Don't let the past stop you. Because that's not good for you.
Try to have a hobby, and do stuff you wouldn't normally do, read books, go walk in the nature, play videogames, meet new people. We all know this generation is screwed up, but it doesn't stop us to enjoy life the way we want.
08 June, 2024 - 11:23 PM(This post was last modified: 08 June, 2024 - 11:24 PM by sap. Edited 1 time in total.)
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Hello,
I don't know who you are, but I do know that you can make it. I understand that it's hard to forget something that changed your life entirely, and I totally get it. However, you need to look to the future for a moment and realize that your future self wouldn't want to be depressed for your whole life. Life is priceless, and so is time. Be kind to yourself. Meet new people, as Alex suggested, and find something you enjoy doing. If you can, consider getting a pet too.
In the end, I want you to understand that the past is like a black hole: the closer you get, the harder it will be to escape. There will come a point where the past will completely consume you, and you will disappear. Please take care and make sure to find happiness. :)
I can't imagine losing the love of my life, please take good care of yourself man. Shit happens in life, sometimes it isn't meant to happen, but we can't prevent the inevitable, if you're not a believer I recommend you to take a step closer to God, start praying and ask for some guidance my friend, it's not about the gesture it's about the faith, it's good to know someone is out there hearing your prayers.
08 June, 2024 - 11:35 PM(This post was last modified: 08 June, 2024 - 11:36 PM by SYZD. Edited 2 times in total.)
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You made me cry, please take care of yourself, I'm sure you'll find a way to make it hope you find peace,pls don't hurt yourself, I'm sure she want you to move on and focus on yourself and achieve more that's how life is, everything comes for a reason, i hope you get better and sorry for your lost, brother