I'm Turning into a Manipulator and I Don't Know How to Stop It.

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Hello,

I wanted to express my feelings about something I have been noticing lately. In short, I've observed that I can easily influence people to do what I want. I'm not sure if this is a positive or negative trait. Is it good or bad to have this skill? Am I doing wrong by manipulating people into doing things they didn't initially want to do?

To clarify (I don't want people to think I'm doing something inappropriate), I'll give an example. Yesterday, I was walking with a friend (Guy 1) and one of his friends (Guy 2). Guy 2 didn't like me much. We went to a bar, and Guy 2 bought a coke since it was morning. Guy 1 bought a beer, and I was about to buy one too when I realized I had left my wallet at home. Long story short, I made Guy 2 feel bad for me, and I convinced him to buy a beer for me. I know this is a trivial story and doesn't necessarily make me a "master manipulator," but this is just one of many similar incidents in the past weeks.

What is your opinion about this?

Myrddin

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as long as it's not done on purpose

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???

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you just experienced "the incident of forced kindness"

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manipulating people feels weird but it is a great skill to have and it is very interesting when it works

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you just experienced "the incident of forced kindness"

I see..

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manipulating people feels weird but it is a great skill to have and it is very interesting when it works

Oh, do you know any good use I can make from it?

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you just experienced "the incident of forced kindness"

I see..

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manipulating people feels weird but it is a great skill to have and it is very interesting when it works

Oh, do you know any good use I can make from it?

Well, you can use it as a social engineering technique