My friend's depression I need serious advice

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I am myself going through depression ....one thing you should understand first of all that "cutting her hand" or "getting extreme sad" are all symptoms of depression . She wont be able to understand it till she get proper medication . Go To general medicine doctor [1]..they will refer her to neurologist or profesional psychotherapist if he feels needed. They will be able to understand  whats going wrong with her and  they wll guide. Next pointers parents must be extra vigilant and try to avoid her being alone and remove door locks [ only in cases where person tries to cut hand or similar act]  .  Do test her vitamin D lvls or ask doctor to check if she gt vit D deficiency [ symtoms of vit D deficiency according to what i have understood during my treatment : cant walk well on stairs...bone feels like they wil break...and tendency of falling on street due to small bumps ] Lastly really take care of her and when ppl get depressed sometimes few take certain suicidal steps which they themselves laugh cause disease makes them think that way, in reality they actually dont to die .                    Most importantly this health issue requires serious family support from parents as well as friends cause depressed ones always get stubborn and say in their mind " i am alone ..no one loves me " . [2]                                                            
[1] You can also visit pshyologist  directly cause in this case  things have got realy messy.

[2] See if she can meditate a bit everyday ... allow her to chat as much as possible but avoid social networking sites like insta where users only show their "best moments" in life . 

Best of luck mate... do dm if you need any further suggestion. I dont want anyone to ever take their life just cause the disease makes them feel they need to die asap.

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Yesterday I was hanging out with my friend who I knew had depression and I didnt know it was really bad until she told me she started cutting herself on her arm. I tried convincing her to go to a therapist but she always says "im fine" or "its not that bad" and I know it isnt true and I need serious advice about what I should do next because I'm a little worried. Im asking for peoples advice what I should do next to make her stop doing this and help her. 

And to anyone who is currently going through major depression try talking to a friend or family member who you can trust or talk to a therapist.

Well, as someone who has struggled with major depressive disorder basically since I was around 10-11, the first thing I would suggest is DO NOT try to tell her that you want "to make her stop doing this" as though her actions are a problem. What she is doing is unhealthy, but she likely doesn't need someone else telling her that she is fucking up or making dumb choices. She likely is entirely aware of how dumb what she is doing is. Just be there for her, literally. That is all you need to do.

Ask if there is any way you can help and make sure she knows that you're there for her no matter what and that you just want her to be happy. Don't try to force her to a therapist or "make her stop" or do anything else that is going to make her feel like she is the problem, when she obviously isn't.

Despite your good intentions, when you're in that state of mind, even though you know that the other person means well, it often gets taken as you trying to fix them, which can cause someone to push you away or stop talking about it altogether and just hiding it because they don't want to: 

• A) bother you with their shit
  
• B) be looked at like some poor victim
  
• C) be told that they aren't making good decisions
  

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What a complex mixture of emotions in the comments .. As for the gist ... I have had several cases of depression in my friends. I sincerely tried to help my school friend, but it turned out that I partially pulled this state onto myself. Didn't help but just became the same( There was one case with a girl. She began to hate me for my help as if I were the source of all problems. The third time I didn’t do anything, I just told his parents about it. Now I think I could give him some kind of link like this chat - https://chat.tendermeets.com/internation...rooms.html  They say that people are more willing to talk about problems to strangers. This is not a psychotherapist but feasible help in such cases.

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If your friend is depressed, then it's a chemical imbalance.  She won't see it for herself.  Perhaps you could get her to the doctor by saying you think she should have the cutting checked out, to make sure it's not infected.  I don't know.  Some excuse to get her to the doctor.  And the doctor will see that she's depressed and (hopefully) put her on medication.

 

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Always help out someone In Need of it. Sometimes silence from someone dealing with depression means they are too overwhelmed.

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Reminder that you matter in this world

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When I'm stressed or too nervous, I can smoke weed. It usually works.